You may be wondering why I'm the luckiest Dad in the World.

I've had a second chance to relate, love, understand and connect with those important to me. I nearly lost it all until I realised they don't take cheques where we're all going and life happens today. Life was empty even though I was surrounded by all the material possessions and toys a successful advertising and marketing business owner could wish for. I'm so grateful I realised what was important... my children, people, love, and a fulfilling job?

It all started when I married for the first time late in life. We had our first born 27 years ago - Toby - an amazing life changing experience. I was serious about things then and I wanted to be the best Dad ever.

I really enjoyed getting up in the middle of the night (occasionally) to feed him and change him. What a fantastic bonding experience that was. To think that I had contributed to this wonderful little person had a very big impact on me. A couple of years later we had the fabulous Holly. I can remember being frightened because I loved them so much and I couldn't comprehend what I would do if anything happened to them.

I suppose it is an easy excuse, but the business took over. I became successful and enjoyed the money and trappings the growing business offered. About 4 years later I felt dizzy with the freedom and the toys I was gathering and became even more selfish, to the point I lost interest in my family; not in the children per se but other things had an impact on my time. I was looking for more, more of what, I wasn't sure but I couldn't be committed to the marriage.

I saw my children every weekend for at least one day. Saying goodbye was a real wrench, I was consumed with a sense of loss and guilt every time. As they grew older it became alternate weekends for the whole weekend. I took an interest in their progress at school, sports days and Christmas plays.

Our time together became more stressful as Toby and Holly wanted to do 'their thing' and I was torn between spending time with them and my own work and household chores. To overcome this conflict we tried an experiment, we would each take turns in choosing what we wanted to do the most - and the other two went along with it. Although I did not do everything I wanted, at least the time we spent together was quality time. We discussed our plans on the car journey or as soon as we met. This experiment was a blessing, as we could all do what we all wanted to do some of the time.

I then met someone who was to become my second wife. By now I was in my late 40's and she wanted to have children. I was enjoying my children and felt I was doing a good job (that was my perception, even though I felt so terribly guilty about leaving them) and I was open-minded about having another child.

As soon as we married the business started to get into trouble. I was determined to pull it around and fought for far too long, until in the end I was bankrupt. I lost everything.

Out of the ashes of all of that came Cassy.

I was determined to make up for the things I hadn't provided for Toby and Holly; mainly loads of quality time, being there when they came home from school and well... just being there.

The failure of the business, debt, no money and lack of self-respect put an unbelievable pressure on our marriage. It didn't last. I was heart-broken. I had to walk away from an acrimonious marriage and leave Cassy before I could make up for all the mistakes I had made with Toby and Holly. This was the worst time of my life I felt guilty, lonely, morose - everything and everyone was against me. I had a nervous breakdown.

You may be wondering why I'm the luckiest Dad in the World?

It started with the help of some counselling, some very good friends and a lovely holiday with Cassy. We went to Spain on our own for a week when she was 4 years old and she never asked for her Mum once. All of a sudden I realised we had a special relationship and I meant something to her. I started to repair myself and to commit myself to being the best Dad on earth.

I have been through a time of self-discovery for the last few years, deciding what is really important to me. More recently I have changed my life completely. After 30-odd years in advertising and marketing I went to a life coach and said I wanted to put something back and if it had anything to do with children that would be a bonus. The coaching experience was invaluable in my self-discovery and change.

I fell in love with the idea of helping people achieve their full potential. After studying to be a life coach, parent coach and Neuro Linguistic Programming, I realised the basis of any personal development is a solid foundation in self-esteem.

This was a light bulb moment as I noticed how confident Cassy was (despite the effect of the divorce, even though we tried to keep it from her) and the positive impact this had on her popularity, learning ability and sense of fulfilment. I also realised the importance a committed Dad has to the effect of their children's development.

So, wouldn't it be wonderful if every child on earth could have these positive attributes and abilities? You can be part of that magical change for your child, coaching is all about taking that first difficult step.

I have adapted techniques from coaching, NLP and from my own life experiences and written programmes, a book and an ecourse and run workshops, produced a video to help empower children and their families.

I absolutely love my job, sometimes I lay awake and think back at what I've achieved. I see a group of eager, happy, smiling faces, hear some unadulterated laughter and recall a light bulb moment, it makes me feel lucky and grateful all over again - it's fantastic.

In creating my business I have found an outlet for my passion of wholistically developing millions of children and families all over the world - and I am on my way. I am truly living my dream and am committed to help children and their families - do partner with me and create that change for your child.

I am the luckiest Dad in the World and you could be too.

PS. That doesn't mean I am a perfect Dad, far from it, I still have my challenges with all my children, like any parent. In fact, I believe all parents are doing the best job they can, with a little help we can all do better and feel so much happier and fulfilled. I am passionate about sharing and supporting families.

Together, we will fan the flames of self-esteem and confidence to explode the potential of the world's children.